"To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." Romans 12:20-21
Ken Sande shares a personal story of when he and his wife had a strong disagreement and went to bed without reconciling (yes, they broke the command not to let the sun go down on their anger!). As they lay there facing away from each other, a bizarre contest developed. Without either one of them saying a word, they tacitly agreed that “he who moves first is weak.” He was not going to budge an inch until she moved and she was just as determined not to move until he did. So, they lay there like two frozen bodies.
Soon, Ken was more frozen than he wanted to be because he had been so distracted when he crawled into bed that he had not pulled the covers over himself. It was wintertime, they normally slept with the window open, so the room was soon very cold, and so was he. Nevertheless, he was so caught up in his stubborn pride that he refused to move and pull up the covers.
After a few minutes, he began to shudder and his wife felt it through the mattress. She slowly turned her head (so he could not tell that she was moving!) to see what was going on. She understood his predicament in a moment: her silly, stubborn husband had backed himself into a corner and needed help to get out. Giving up her desire to win the ridiculous contest of wills, she made the first move. She reached down, took hold of the blankets and pulled them gently over his shoulders.
In a few moments, he was warm. Her loving gesture was so entirely undeserved that it melted his heart. His anger and pride dissolved, and he finally saw how much he had sinned against her. He turned to her and experienced the joy and freedom that comes from making peace.
Do you want to know how to make peace? Consider God’s counsel and principles that are found in Romans 14-21 and repeated throughout the Bible, “love your neighbor as yourself”, “do to others what you would have them do to you”, “overlook an offense”, ”if someone is caught in a sin, restore him gently”, “speak the truth in love”, “look out for the interests of others”, “forgive as the Lord forgave you”.
Posted on Mon, May 5, 2014
by Sam Petitfils