“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 (KJV)
When I was a young boy, I would build model cars from time to time. As much as I loved playing with the model car when it was finished, I really didn’t care for all of the parts and gluing the car together. I would get frustrated when the parts didn’t connect right. I didn’t want to miss or lose parts of the model and reading through the instructions; also, it seemed boring as a kid. And then there was the glue…what a nightmare!!! It seemed I would get glue everywhere.
Years later as an adult, I decided to build a model of a 1956 Chevy BelAir that is very similar to the 1956 Chevy BelAir car that I own. My 56 Chevy has special significance because my granddad originally owned the car and he passed it down through the generations. As an adult, I thought it would be so much easier building a model car. But as I started the project, I discovered that I struggled putting the model together, much like I did as a child. Needless to say, I had glue everywhere!!!
Then the idea of superglue happened to cross my mind. It really sounded so much simpler. A few drops here and there would hold the car together. What a great solution…until your fingers touch the glue!!!
In Genesis 2:24, the Bible uses the word “cleave” to describe the relationship between a husband and a wife. This Hebrew term speaks of adhering to or “Sticking Together Forever.” It should be a strong tie, an attachment that is never intended to be broken. The verb suggests an unwavering action. In essence, it is not that a husband and wife are stuck together, but they are “Sticking Together Forever.” They are holding on firmly to one another and there is nothing passive about this action.
The New Testament refers to this term as cementing together and sticking together like glue, so the two cannot be separated without serious damage to both. God wants married people to consider and view their marriage as permanent, a bond that will never be broken. God wants you to enter and think of your marriage covenant with the mindset of “Sticking Together Forever” and not opting out when it’s convenient, or when life gets tough.
One of the key components in a successful marriage is communication. Marriage involves constant communication. Communication is usually cited as the number one reason for the breakup of a marriage. Every marriage will also have conflicts and problems. Husbands and wives need to be proactive and learn how to resolve conflicts. Withdrawing and isolating is not the answer. Cleaving together means clinging faithfully and steadfast to one another; recognizing that each person needs to sacrifice and serve, to put the needs of your mate above your own.
Ruth Graham once said, “A successful marriage is made up of two good forgivers.”
Are you a professional forgiver?
Are you cleaving to your spouse?
Are you committed to “Sticking Together Forever” in your marriage?
Posted on Mon, July 2, 2012
by Keith Knight