"May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth." Proverbs 5:18
Christians haven’t always done a very good job talking about sex. Some avoid the topic altogether and others give the impression that sex is somehow inherently degrading and tainted. But God, in the Bible, doesn’t avoid the topic of sex, or say that it is bad. The Handbook of Bible Application explains that sex is a gift God gives to married people for their mutual enjoyment. God does not intend faithfulness in marriage to be boring, lifeless, pleasureless and dull. Real happiness comes when we decide to find pleasure in the marriage relationship God has given, or will give us, and to commit our self to making it pleasurable for our spouse. The real danger is in doubting that God knows and cares for us. We then may resent His timing and carelessly search for sexual pleasure without His blessing.
Sexuality is a natural, God-given desire and sexual temptations are difficult to withstand because they appeal to the normal and natural desires that God has given us. Marriage provides God’s way to satisfy these natural sexual desires and to strengthen us against temptation. Married couples have the responsibility to care for each other; therefore, husbands and wives should not withhold themselves sexually from one another, but should fulfill each other’s needs and desires.
God is the creator of sex and He is our guide in the use of sexuality. Spiritually, our body belongs to God when we become a Christian and because Jesus Christ bought us by paying the price to release us from sin. Physically, our body belongs to our spouse because God designed marriage so that, through the union of husband and wife, the two become one. Paul stressed complete equality in sexual relationships and neither male nor female should seek dominance or autonomy.
To keep from hurting ourselves, sexual desires and activities must be placed under Christ’s control. God created sex for procreation, pleasure and as an expression of love between a husband and wife. Moreover, our sexual experience must be limited to the marriage relationship to avoid hurting ourself, our relationship with God and our relationships with others.
God has a positive view of sex and also specific guidelines about how to express our sexuality. God is not a killjoy, His guidelines for our sexuality are for our help, protection and good.
Posted on Wed, June 12, 2013
by Dave Jones