Maximizing Your Marriage

“Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well. Should your springs be scattered abroad, streams of water in the streets?” (Proverbs 5:15-16).

God does not simply forbid bad behavior and then leave it at that. God points us to proper behavior. We will be blunt at this point: God created us with physical desires. God established a proper and godly outlet for such desires within the marriage union. In fact, God commands married couples to “come together” physically lest they get tempted (1 Corinthians 7:1-5). He also calls the intimate union between husband and wife “honorable” (Hebrews 13:4). But Satan twisted God’s plan for marital happiness by tempting people to stray from the marital union.

Steps to maximize your marriage:

1. Strive for excellent communication in your marriage.
Some couples almost live as brother and sister where each gets in the way of the other. But God established marriage as a wonderful intimate relationship where each can freely trust and share with the other. Work on your communication, and emotional intimacy will soon follow.

2. Pray for and serve your spouse.
Couples today clash because they place themselves first. But look what the Bible says:

“Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Ephesians 5:21).

“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves” (Philippians 2:3).

God’s plan calls for us to love and serve our spouse. Society urges us to satisfy ourselves first, but that can only lead to head-butting. Instead we should humbly love and meet the needs of our spouse.

3. Come together in physical union.
As noted above, God established the physical union between husband and wife. He therefore sanctions sex within the boundaries of marriage. He wants and even commands them to come together physically lest they be tempted. As always, God gives only good counsel.

God designed marriage for blessing, not hardship. Yes, we all have to work at it. But when we do it God’s way, He blesses the union in ways the world can never discover apart from Christ.

Finally, if you are single, you do not want to enter marriage without first learning what the Bible says about it. Read as much as you can, and begin to pray for God’s leading for you. He may call you to a single life, but He may also lead you to get married. It’s best to prepare now, and learn all you can about the kind of marriage God blesses.

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