"You cry out, “Why doesn’t the Lord accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows." Malachi 2:14
I recently read the account of a young couple that was having lunch at a café’. As the young man got up to pay their bill, his wife remained seated in the booth. When he was finished paying the check, the man came back to the booth to get his young bride. The husband bent over, lifted her up, and carried her with his arms while supporting her legs. In return, she hugged him and wrapped her arms around his neck. The young man walked out the front door of the café’ to a small, older pick-up truck in the parking lot with his wife in his arms. Everyone in the café’ was drawn and captivated by this young romantic couple as if he was carrying his bride over the threshold for the first time.
Upon arriving to the truck, the husband gently put his wife into the front seat cab and as the couple drove away you could see a folded wheelchair strapped down in the bed of the truck. I’m sure there was a verbal “sigh” and a sense of “awe” throughout the café’ that day at lunch. The impact and the testimony this couple demonstrated that day caused everyone watching to pause and reflect. One waitress appropriately remarked, “That husband took his vows seriously.”
Life is tough and seems unfair at times. Repeating your vows on your wedding day is like a blink of an eye, but living them out and fulfilling them when life gets tough is another. We accept “better”, but can’t endure “worse.” We accept “richer”, but can’t tolerate “poorer.” And I find it interesting that the next statement of the wedding vow reflects a negative connotation or undertone first, “in sickness and in health.” It’s an inevitable reality we must face. Will we honor our commitment, our covenant, our vow to God and our spouse?
It’s sad to think that most couples don’t think about their vows too often. They live their lives in our fast-paced, hectic world until a trial, a tragedy, or unfortunate circumstance occurs…a job loss, a financial crisis, a health problem or losing a loved one. And when that happens, it brings an uncomfortable jolt to our lives. Unfortunately, research points out that those difficult situations can drive a wedge between couples and eventually tear them apart.
But just as the man with the pickup honored his vows by carrying his wife, I encourage you to give some thought to how God has carried you and has been faithful to you (and your spouse) in your marriage. For my wife and me, we are grateful that God’s grace has carried us through many storms and seasons of uncertainty in our lifetime.
Pause, Reflect & Discuss:
How has God carried you (and your spouse) through a tough time?
Posted on Thu, March 20, 2014
by Sam Petitfils